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There is No Wagon to Fall Off – Find Peace Through Your Addictions!

Do you ever get overwhelmed by your to-do list?  Not the to-do lists like things at work, or the housework, or managing your relationships in life, we barely have enough time for these things, right? These are never-ending as it is, but do you ever get overwhelmed by the most important to-do list; which is you?  Until you face your internal to-do list you will forever feel as though you’re barely hanging on and so the cycle of being on or off the wagon continues.

It’s easy in life to let everything pile up. We get overwhelmed and it’s easy to feel stuck.  So instead of dealing with our ‘stuff’, we let another day slide, then a week and then before we know it the years have gone by, and we are still where we were a decade ago.  We sometimes change our environment, get a new job, meet new people, and form new relationships, accumulate more things, but the feelings deep within our souls remain the same.  Do you ever ask, ‘what’s the point?’  Really what we are asking is ‘what’s the point, to life?’.

What we are all deeply desiring isn’t happiness, it’s inner peace!

Last week I spent 5 days with a group of women at my Transcendence Retreat.  It was an incredible week and as I drove away, I reflected on why this group of women made this particular retreat one of my best in over 20 years of running women’s groups. They simply showed up with open minds and were willing to take the journey with me.

The question always arises in my retreats and events about how to stay on the wagon.  There is NO WAGON, you’re simply living LIFE!  It has its ups and downs, and it’s highs and lows.  So, what happens when we don’t have the resilience, strength or skills to approach the inevitable lows?  We lean into our addictions to escape.  So, what is addiction really?  

Addiction is fear and the absence of love. What you’re suffering from is the addiction to the personality and the ego that has painted a false sense of self.  You believe your pain and suffering is unique and special to you. It’s not, it’s a human infliction and you’re not alone.   Suffering is the belief that you are separate from one another and separate from the divine and this keeps you lonely and separated from each other.

When you escape into your addictions you are looking for one thing, peace.  You’re under the illusion that what you want is happiness and spend your lives seeking, searching and craving happiness, but that’s where you are misguided by a society that’s constantly telling you what you need to obtain such false happiness. The new house, the car, the man or woman, the family, the status and career etc etc.  

It’s all built of the energy of lack and the things you think and are told will make you happy. But that can polarise you even further because when you desire the things you don’t have, you feel even more inadequate and that’s when apathy can set into full gear. We scream down the highway of life screaming ‘I give up, who bloody cares anyway!?’ Your soul cares, that’s who and so does the divine universe which wants to expand and express itself through you.

Everything outside of you though is a distraction and an illusion.  What happens when you get everything you thought you wanted?  You’re still the same person inside, only now with more responsibilities and more things to take care of, maintain and manage. You might get what you want and gain fleeting moments of satisfaction and a sense of temporary achievements, but you’re still empty.  You are still carrying the trauma of your pasts; the wounds life has accumulated and so your addictions continue.  

So, you go back into your addictions and fall off that imaginary wagon because there’s more to learn and unpack. You haven’t suffered enough yet to wake up to your own divinity and power!

You still haven’t yet found the higher meaning of suffering. Pain in life is inevitable, but suffering is optional.  But suffering serves only one true purpose, to awaken you. To bring in the light so you have faith and trust that everything is always working out for you. You just can’t see it yet. Have faith and let go.

To let go, feels like a possession.  As though some ungodly entity will overtake your consciousness and you’ll somehow lose yourself.  
So, you struggle to let go and instead hold onto your pain to keep you grounded.  And yet all you really want to do is surrender, and to feel safe and not alone. To feel secure enough to let go and let God.

‘It’s me, my pain! You don’t understand!’  Beneath it all is the biggest problem humans face, that of the ego and pain body and the illusion that God and the universe, the divine intelligence isn’t accessible to you. You forget who you truly are.

You are LOVE, everything else is an illusion. You block love through fear and you chose to not be love through fear.  And you forget what love is and have even given that a false identity.

What is love to you?  Think about this.  Maybe it’s time for an upgrade?

When you fall off the wagon, you’ve succumbed to pain because you have more healing to do. Accept that’s what you’re doing.  Acknowledge it and forgive yourself and be compassionate. From there write about your feelings.  Listen to them. What’s your real pain?  Is it fear of failure or success?  Why are you afraid of failure anyway?  Isn’t that where the growth is?  Stop fearing pain and loss.  Loss of what? The false sense of self?

We fear change more than we fear staying right where we are.  And that’s why we stay stuck. Who would you be underneath it all? You’d be at peace.  You’d know you are divine in nature. You’d know the universe loves you, that you are loved and not alone. The angels are with you.

You tell yourself you have no choices, but you do.  You have the free will to decide how you feel.  That’s it.  That’s all it takes.

At the end of every retreat, there is always the conversation about ‘What now, where do we begin moving forward?’  To which I reply, ‘You do what’s right in front of you, you work on the most important thing in your life that you have been avoiding that will bring you the inner peace and the resolution you crave. That’s what you’re really craving after all, not your addiction of choice.

Put your inner peace at the top of your list and you create the space and the necessary boundaries so you can focus on creating it. As you shift your inside world your outside world changes.  

You have an infinite source of inner strength and inner power when you allow the universe to work its magic through you. Meditate, pray, walk, laugh and sing, whatever works for you to fill your soul up with light, and find your way back home. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

Deborah xxx

PS If this blog resonated with you and your soul guides you, you will LOVE my upcoming 2-day virtual event, Embody The Switch. Come and discover the hidden blocks that stand between you and your best life. 
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The Gift of Change… I admit it, I fell apart!

Last week a bomb was dropped on my personal life!   My darling partner Eric got a call from back home in the States, to hear that his mother has stage four brain cancer.  She had been receiving radiation for lung cancer over the past 6 months and 40% of lung cancers metastasise to the brain, and sadly, this happened to her.

Our life was pretty close to perfect.  We got Eric’s 2-year visa to stay in New Zealand, he had started a full-time job which he was really enjoying, we were starting to make lovely friends and our social calendar was filling up.  We had loads to look forward to over the coming months and with the firewood stacked we were excited that winter was on its way and looking forward to the first snow of the year. 

Then BAM!  Everything turned on its head, our world tipped upside down and we had just a couple of days to make a plan for him to get home to Florida and plan how we would manage everything. 

I admit I was a total mess!  I didn’t handle it well at all in those first hours as this was unfolding. My emotions were all over the place. It triggered anxiety and fear and brought up a lot of my past trauma of abandonment and many other things.  I’m nearly 50 and yet I still regress sometimes into my 7-year-old. Just when you think you’re over something, another test arises!

So, we moved my Mother’s Day to Saturday and Eric took my daughter and Deb and me to Millbrook for a glorious brunch, then we stopped off at the Shotover bridge to paddle our feet in the crystal-clear water. 

What’s the lesson here?  Sometimes trauma never leaves, but you do learn to manage it.  Each time something triggers an emotional response from the past, you get another opportunity to react slightly differently than the time before.  It’s about working through the layers. 

Yes, I’m a human, we all are, and it’s messy!  When situations like this arise and it brings up ‘stuff’ it takes some time to process and recognise it’s just that, ‘stuff’!  The ego’s immediate response is to react from its pain body and to make it all about ‘you’!  But recognising it is the key. So, I set my ‘stuff’ aside and we worked through the plan, together. 

So, on Mother’s Day, I put him on a plane back to the USA and then drove over to Kurow where this morning I begin leading a 5-day retreat.  Given my commitments to work, with my retreat and my Annual Embody the Switch Event at the end of the month, there was no way I could have gone with him to support him in person.  I had to put my big girl pants on and put my community and family here first.  When you feel like collapsing and hiding out in a dark room so you can wallow in self-pity alone, yet you have to show up in life instead, it can be a challenge!  Yep, being human is messy!

But life is also about showing up and getting shit done sometimes, even when you don’t want too.  It’s about working through your own mess, focusing on the bigger picture, telling yourself an empowering over disempowering story and just mucking in to get through.  Life isn’t constant bliss and it’s not meant to be.  Earth school isn’t meant to be easy; it’s meant to stimulate your awakening and growth.  It’s about learning that hard emotions are just as important as blissful emotions.  It’s about realizing that nothing is constant and the only thing you can rely on, is change.  We are souls having a human experience, not humans who have the odd soulful moment, and sometimes we all need reminding of this. 

It’s also about self-forgiveness.  Initially, I reacted badly, but I bounced back quickly once I allowed acceptance set in.  In the end, I booked his flights, got all his documentation sorted and let go of my fear.  I had to question my own mind and ultimately, I had to let go and let God. 

To say that Eric’s relationship with his mother is complicated is an understatement. But at the end of the day, family is family and at the core, it all collapses into unconditional love.  Sometimes it takes a crisis to be reminded of what’s important in life.  But another lesson here is to focus on that.  What’s the most important thing in this moment and how can we move through any crisis with dignity and grace?  Those words came to me through prayer when I was at a rock bottom moment in life.  Like the angels whispering to me ‘Deb, focus on getting through this with dignity and grace’.  Those words can really shift the energy of any situation. 

Do I still feel anxiety over this situation? Right now, yes, I do.  Until this is resolved and Eric is safely back home, I don’t know if it’s realistic to not feel low-grade stress.  That’s normal, expected and what it means to be a human.  I want to be with him to support him, yet, the universe had other plans.  He is meant to do this journey alone and I trust it will be a truly healing one for his family. 

So, what is going on in your life right now that might require some dignity and grace?  What have you been avoiding facing that might actually need you to put on your own big girl pants and muck in and get ‘shit’ done you don’t want to face? 

Life is about growth and if we choose to see it, we can see that there are many gifts in change.  Change challenges us, it raises unhealed wounds and shadows of our ego, it forces us to grow, and it gifts us the opportunity to rise above our emotions and refocus our attention upon what’s truly important at this moment.  It teaches us to let go and trust and to draw upon our faith, that life is always working out for us, no matter what.  We just have to get out of our own way at times.

When any crisis arises my friend Matt, the Neurologist has some wise words I’d love to share with you.  He says to trust instinct, over reason, over emotions.  Instinct is what your heart tells you which is intelligence, reason is what the mind tells you and we know the mind can play many tricks, and the emotions are just filters of the past and may serve no purpose in the present moment today.  Eric didn’t have time to say a proper goodbye to his father, so his heart knew he had no choice but to go while there was still time and heal from this goodbye.  We don’t know how long she will have, this may not be his last goodbye, but in a crisis, you need to be willing to drop everything and put those you love first. 

So, I am about to get ready to meet a group of women from our TKS community and I am truly grateful to have such a beautiful distraction this week and to live a part of my soul mission of facilitating transformation. The scene is set for an incredible week!  And then I will be off home this weekend to begin preparing for Embody the Switch and I hope you can all join me for the 2-day event which will be totally transformational.  I’ve spent the last year thinking about this event.  What wisdom can I bring you, and what I can teach you that will forever enhance the next steps of your journey.  It will be a full range of mind-body-spirit teachings to awaken a higher frequency in your soul so you are equipped to face the inevitable challenges that arise along your own life’s journey. 

The early bird is not available for too much longer, and there is a payment option if this helps.  I do hope to see as many of our community there live with me for a magical 2-days. 

I want you to know that life isn’t always easy but with all its colours, it can also be a glorious mess of navigating and growth and with every moment, there are many gifts if we stop to ask one simple question; what is the gift of this moment and what can I learn from this? 

I love you all!

Deborah xxxx   

PS If this blog resonated with you, you will LOVE my upcoming 2-day virtual event, Embody The Switch. Come and discover the hidden blocks that stand between you and your best life. Find out more here.

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Dear Good Girl, Stop Trying to be Liked!

A few years ago, I took the time to document the seven archetypes of women on a weight loss journey and today I want to share some advice for the Good Girls out there.  Over my decades of coaching women, I saw patterns that became highly predictable in nature.  I watched women with similar personalities struggle with the same set of issues.  When meeting a woman for the first time, I could predict the challenges she would face right from the start.  And so, my career changed my trajectory towards understanding the mindset of women and their journey to make peace with their bodies. 

I began to conclude many things; one is that we are more alike than we are different. 

I’ve witnessed countless women feeling completely isolated and alone in their thoughts about their body image and their self-image.  There is so much shame surrounding weight issues, that few women really share the intimate details of what they are truly going through with others.  Let me offer you some comfort here, you are not alone; this journey is one of our many shared human inflictions. 

There is little I haven’t heard over the decades from women struggling with their body and their weight.  I’ve spent thousands upon thousands of hours inside the minds of women on a weight loss journey.  I know the struggles most women endure feeling as though their body is working against them, and yet it’s not just their body, it’s also their mind.  I know there is a belief system that imprisons someone in a body they don’t love, from the excuses they make to the reasons they sabotage themselves. Likewise, there is a belief system that can free women from the ravages of self-loathing, toward an authentic love and freedom for life where genuine peace resides. 

Why does the average woman spend 17 years of her life dieting?  Because she is focused on the wrong things.  You’ll never solve a weight issue with another diet.  Weight loss is an inside job and at the core of it are self-love and self-respect.  You simply have to understand yourself in order to create a lasting transformation.

For most women, a ‘come to Jesus’ moment is required.  It requires time to get real and take a long hard look at herself and that’s not a road all women are willing to take.  So, my first question to women is ‘do you really want to change?’  Challenging your belief systems isn’t work for the faint-hearted. The negative aspects of your ego must die in order for a new you to be born. 

Weight loss isn’t about dieting to obtain a goal and then returning to the habits that caused your weight gain in the first place, that’s simply insanity if you look at it. Yet this is what the diet industry has taught you.  Do my diet, get these results.  Well fine, but then what? 

We know in the diet industry that 98% of women will fail to keep their weight off after 2 years.  Therefore, I’ve long maintained to my clients that if they don’t do the mindset, I’ll see them back here next year.  You need to stop focusing on food and focus on your mind, then the former will follow. 

You have to be willing to upheaval your world and dissect your belief systems and behaviours.  You have to be willing to find the blockages in your consciousness, and the reasons why you continue to sabotage yourself in life.   You have to get to a point where you’re so sick and tired of being sick and tired, that you’re willing to do anything to change and that includes looking at yourself, intimately. 

Here’s what I know to be true about weight gain and obesity; the life you have lived manifests in the body.  If you have suffered trauma, it will store itself within your nervous system.  If you have held onto past regrets, if you’ve not forgiven yourself or others, if you are trying to fit in and be liked to the point of compromising your own dreams, goals, values and desires, it will all show in your body.  If you haven’t dealt with anything in your past, it will continue to manifest in the physical form well into your future. 

There is only one pathway to authentic self-love, self-respect and freedom, and that is to heal your life from the inside out.  And that begins with letting go of the need to be liked.  Stop compromising yourself by putting others’ needs before your own.  You are no good to anyone if you don’t show up authentically in your life first. Stop pretending to be someone you are not.  You have to love the life you are in no matter where you are. You need to stop putting conditions on your happiness and waiting for a checklist of boxes to be ticked to feel worthy of self-love and happiness.  It’s all a choice and you get to make the decisions. 

I think when embarking on a weight loss journey, the first step most women need to take is to get over the need to be liked.  The archetype of the Good Girl, which inflicts most women to varying degrees is the aspect of ego that can unstuck most women on a weight loss journey.  This is the woman who will compromise her diet to fit in, yet it’s much deeper than this, she will also compromise her own values, her dreams, her goals and her desires to fit in, be agreeable and therefore ‘liked.’ 
Always, and without compromise, live your truth.  When you are not living in integrity with yourself, you cannot live in integrity with anyone else and suffering is 100% guaranteed. 

To master the transformational journey of weight loss, you have to actually be willing to change your entire life.  This includes the way you socialise and the way you behave and interact with other people.  Moving from the ‘fat chick’ who was great to grab a coffee and cake with at morning tea, to the ‘healthy chick’ that walks a few blocks to buy her salad during her lunch break or brings her healthy lunches and sits in the sunlight instead of the café, is a giant leap in the social order.  You risk losing friends but get over it.  True friends lovingly support you because they want the best for you.  Stop being a follower and start being a leader and you’ll find out who your authentic friends are. 

But if you’re brave enough to share your decision to try a new lifestyle with others, then you risk criticism.  You know deep down how many times you’ve slipped off the wagon before, so you have limited self-belief.  So, you tell yourself that you have one choice and that’s to try and do this journey privately.  Well, that is also a disaster because you’ll find yourself making excuses to not socialise or put yourself into situations where you need to compromise yourself or others.  The Good Girls hide away because they don’t want to upset anybody or put others out in any way. So, the dinner invitations get turned down, or worse if they are accepted, the Good Girl will compromise her own journey as to not make a fuss or stand out in any way.  Then regrettably she’ll head home and berate herself.  If she’s strong she will return to her plan, but I know that’s rare; most women will feel like such a failure, they will ‘give up’ for the rest of the week and start again on Monday. 

But what does it say about your relationships if they can’t withstand making some healthy changes along life’s journey?  Not everyone is going to like you.  No matter who you are, no matter how brilliant, talented, nice and agreeable you appear to be, how successful, how beautiful, how jolly fabulous you are, not everyone is going to like you.  Fact!  So, stop trying to be liked by others, and start focusing on liking yourself and you’ll wake up one morning and realise you no longer just like yourself, you love yourself.  

When you understand your values, your needs, your innermost desires and dreams and when you are willing to follow your bliss and obtain authentic freedom, which is your place of personal power, you will find that battling with weight becomes a thing of the past.  So, the real diet isn’t what you do to your body first, it’s what you do to your mind.  When you love yourself fully, you will no longer load yourself with toxic foods, you will nourish the skin you are in, and your body will thank you for it!  Happiness truly is an inside job! 

Deborah xx

PS If this blog resonated with you, you will LOVE my upcoming 2-day virtual event, Embody The Switch. Come and discover the hidden blocks that stand between you and your best life. Find out more here:

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Manifesting Dreams… the story behind the photograph

This is a story I’ve never written on paper before. It’s a story about dreams yet to be realised, it’s a story about overcoming the impossible, but most of all it’s a story about faith, self-belief and never giving up. 

In 2016 I was a single mother of three daughters struggling to put food on the table and a roof over our heads. I was a quarter of a million dollars in debt, a burden I had carried for over 8 years.  I had debt collectors hounding me daily and no means to pay any of it.  I woke up each day with a sick feeling in my stomach and no means of climbing my way out of the swamp, apart from one thing, a deep knowing that this was not going to define me or be how my story ends. 

So, I dug deep.  Deeper than I ever had before, which was hard because the burnout from years of earthquakes, trauma, home losses, a divorce, and what felt like endless failures had truly taken a toll on me in every way.  I had been tested in every way possible and yet, the tests were the secret that kept me going.  I knew they were just ‘tests’.  So, what do we do when we are being tested?  I had a choice to either declare defeat and give up by playing victim to life’s circumstances, or I could choose to rise up and pass the tests by learning from every little and big ‘mistake’ I’d ever made that had led me to that moment.  That started by realising there are no mistakes, only opportunities to learn and grow. 

I chose to rise up!  And that’s when my life changed.  I could write an entire book just on this one subject, how I overcame a poverty consciousness, how I rose above fear and why I decided never to quit.  The bottom line was I knew that every adversity I had faced and was facing could be something other women one day may be able to relate to, and in seeing me overcome the hell I was in, then maybe I could inspire them to rise from their own ashes and try again.  I decided to not lay down my sword in defeat, but to find the last tiny spark of energy I had left and yield that power into changing my belief system so I could manifest a new life.  And so, I did.

Within weeks of making the decision to let go of the old me, I had manifested a business partner that could take my message to the world.  I became an ‘overnight’ success story, with 20 years of hard work and commitment behind it.  And that’s my message here to you who is reading this; there are no ‘overnight success’ stories without a lot of blood, sweat, tears and a defiant commitment and belief in what you are doing.  ‘Never quit’ became a motto for me during my many ‘long dark nights of the soul’ and I invite you to make this one of your mottos.

Over the years leading to this moment, I would save some pennies and put them aside so I could take myself off to stay that the Langham hotel in Auckland which was a 2-hour drive away from my home.  I couldn’t afford a holiday for many, many years, but I would wait for special offers to come up and go and spend a night there a couple of times a year because they had a beautiful day spa that I could enjoy for free. I couldn’t afford the treatments, but I’d spend hours in the herbal steam room, saunas and pools.  I used to walk past the beautiful event rooms and dream to myself, one day I’ll run an event here  I’d visualise, dream and even ‘pretend’ to myself I was staying there on business running a sellout event! 

Fast forward to 2017 and TKS had really lifted off.  The community was growing daily and the energy was palpable.  Something magical had been birthed.  So, when women started asking to meet me, it was a natural decision for me to aim high.  So, I announced my very first annual Embody the Switch event at the Langham hotel and it sold out within 24 hours with many women travelling across the ditch from Australia to New Zealand to see me.

Walking out onto the stage with women on their feet cheering for me was nothing short of overwhelming, I don’t know how I didn’t pee my knickers!  I was NOT a seasoned presenter in those days, in fact, I don’t even know how I got through it, but I did with the help of my friends Cate, Theresa and Deb.  It was an out of body experience I’ll never forget.  On the second day, a beautiful woman asked me to have a photo with her, and before I knew it there was a line of women from the front of the stage all the way to the back of the room.  Women took turns coming up on stage, generally crying with gratitude and then taking beautiful photographs of cuddles, tears and pure joy.  I felt deeply humbled and proud of myself for not ever quitting and thankful to God and the universe for giving me the guidance and strength to get there.  Despite all the years of criticism from people literally telling me to give up my dreams and get a ‘real job’, I stayed the course due to nothing less than, ‘faith.’ 

I still believe that if TKS wasn’t born through me, it would have been born through someone else.  It’s much bigger than me. I was the soul that put her hand up and said ‘yes, I’ll do it’.  I chose to pave the way for other women, but I knew they too would have to rise up in their own lives to do the ‘work’ to transform themselves, the way I transformed my life.  And since then, tens of thousands of women have. 

I believe we are all one.  We are a community and every woman who’s ever been a part of the magic of TKS, has been a part of its co-creation.  I’m eternally grateful for each woman who has joined me on this journey, the women who also refused to lay down their swords and not never quit! 

And to those of you who are feeling defeated, in many ways I feel your pain, I know your suffering.  But I’m here to whisper to you, that if I can do it, so can you.  All we need in this world is our own inner determination and self-belief, even when no one else around you believes in you anymore, or you feel like you’ve failed so many times, there’s no point in trying again.  I want to lovingly tell you to pull up your socks, to stop dwelling in the past and to let you know that you don’t need others to believe in you, you need you to believe in you!

I’ll never forget the look on my daughter’s face that weekend of the first Embody The Switch event.  They knew my business was doing well, but they didn’t know the difference it was making to so many women’s lives.  To see them proud of me was worth every bit of hell I’d trampled over to get there. And the icing on the cake for me was learning that my Embody The Switch event was to be the last event at the Langham Hotel in Auckland, as it reopened the next day as the Cordis under a new brand!  Bucket list – tick (JUST)!

(After my event with my family, triumphant and exhausted!)

I hope this inspires you to keep going.  Never quit, and never stop believing in yourself despite how defeated you may feel.  Your inner guidance will find the strength you need if you ask her to. 

“The universe is benevolent, but it wants you to dream a little bigger darling.” – Deborah Murtagh

Deborah xxx

PS: I’m thrilled to invite you to my first online Embody The Switch 2-day annual event. These will be 2 magical days! I’ll be sharing with you my biggest discovery in 30 years as a weight loss coach in the field of weight loss psychology. You don’t want to miss this!
Click here to join: https://membership.ketogenicswitch.com/switch

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Have you found the Switch before?

You know, that feeling when it just all comes together and everything just clicks?
That’s because you were inspired! You see creating a lasting change has nothing to do with willpower, inspiration is where it’s all going on gals!

Have you ever taken the leap to embark on a new lifestyle change and feared you might not be able to stick at it? Has that fear even prevented you from starting altogether? Or have you worried you’ll have to give up too much?  Do you believe it takes a lot of willpower to change your diet, start exercising, quit drinking or whatever other changes you’ve either made in the past or still want to make?

While willpower helps in the initial stages of change, willpower never works in the long run, but inspiration does.  Willpower is like a candle flame; it eventually burns out resulting in us returning to our default hardwired habits. If you’ve ever ‘fallen off the wagon’ it’s because you were relying on willpower to get you through, but you’ve not stepped fully into the frequency of being totally inspired to a point nothing can break you.  Wouldn’t it feel amazing if you could literally flick a switch so this never happened again? 

It’s an inspiration that ignites what I call a ‘switch’ and that takes something of great effort and turns it into something of ease!

‘SWITCH’ is an acronym for self-wisdom-inside-that-changes-habits.  And a switch is ignited through inspiration to a point that you know change is possible.

Have you ever experienced the feeling where suddenly something just ‘clicks’ and it’s then easy to stick to your new lifestyle and easy to say ‘no’ to the very things you used to do and love without any effort or thought?  Where the things that used to tempt you, no longer do?  You’ve discovered the ‘switch’.  

There’s a switch in your consciousness that literally takes you from the consciousness of someone who used to think one way, into the consciousness of someone who now thinks differently.  Over the years I’ve discovered a number of switches people that have succeeded with TKS have embodied. 

Here are a few of my tips for igniting the SWITCH:

  • The first is knowing your ‘why’
    What’s in it for you and for people around you? What vision do you hold for your future?
  • Write a list of costs and payoffs. 
    What are all the payoffs and the costs of this lifestyle change?  And what are you worried you might lose as a result?  Stack the payoffs highly in your favour!
  • Get empowered with knowledge!
    I find that listening to podcasts, watching inspiring stories on YouTube, reading books and listening to eBooks can provoke inspiration into action.  Learn whatever you can so you know more about your ‘why’ and you know what it is you need to do to step into action.  And stay on that path but keeping up your learning.
  • Write a clear action plan. 
    If you write things down, it helps the brain to organize the steps required to invoke change!
  • Set yourself small obtainable goals and non-food rewards so the reward center in your brain rewires from the ‘high’ of the addictive behavior, to a ‘high’ that comes from having a strong sense of self-worth, self-love and self-pride.  Celebrate your wins in healthy ways!

I recently filmed a webinar called The 3 Master Switches for Permanent Weight Loss and I’d love to share that with you here: https://membership.ketogenicswitch.com/free-masterclass

Feel free to share this with your friends so they can also get inspired!  You never know, it could be life-changing for them too!

Deborah xxx

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A personal life note… Welcome to the world Ollie!

Last weekend, my first grandchild Ollie was born peacefully into the loving arms of his parents, Shelby and Taylor.  They were inseparable teenage sweethearts.  They supported each other through their degrees, got married, bought and renovated their first home, and planned the arrival of their first baby.  I couldn’t be prouder of them. Watching their relationship grow deeper and deeper in love over the past 8 years, has been beautiful to witness.  They truly have something incredibly rare and special, and now I get to see them fully embrace the joy of unconditional love that only your first baby can bring. 

I’ve always believed that birth isn’t just the birth of a baby, but the birth of a mother, and a father as well.  Nothing prepares you for the growth and transformation that continues to expand from that day forth.  And now I also see the first grandchild also marks the birth of new grandparents.  So now, I embark on my next stage of life too, as a Glamma (Glam-ma)! 

I am still surprised that I managed to raise such a ‘sensible’ child, as I became a single mother with her when I was just 23. My mission as a mother was clear from the start; I wanted to ‘raise strong, independent, free-thinking women.’  I probably should have thought that through a bit more as raising three strong females wasn’t easy at times, 😂 but I know I’ll never have to worry about them in life, so I can comfortably tick that box now.

Far from being a helicopter parent, my parenting style has been highly unconventional.  
I had one requirement for my girls and that was to find their purpose and mission in this world and pursue it with everything.  And I guided them to see that if you live a life of service and contribution to others, you’ll always live a fulfilling and wonderful life.  

Shelby chose to become a midwife, so welcoming the birth of her own baby is quite literally her dream come true.  Seeing photos of her holding her baby for the first time and seeing tears of the purest form of joy streaming from her face, is an image I will treasure for a lifetime. Nothing prepares you for the kind of heart-orgasmic love of greeting a new soul into this world.  Your heart chakra literally explodes wide open!

Next week I will get to meet wee Ollie in person for the first time and I’m not sure there’s anything I can do to prepare myself for what I’m about to feel, but I do know makeup will be a complete waste of time as I can’t stop crying over the thought of it, I have a bottomless well of love for him.  Ollie, Glamma is on her way! 

So, here’s to everyone who has recently embarked on their next momentous journey in life!  I hope that 2022 is a year of blessings for you too! 

Deborah xxxx

PS Thank you for choosing me as your mum Shelby, and thank you for choosing me as your Glamma, Ollie. It’s a privilege to walk this new life path with you both. xxx

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The Frequency of Love (Wellbeing)

Last week I had my partner home with the big Om.  I did a number of unconventional things to manage his recovery and I want to share with you my philosophy on this.  And that is that love and connection conquers all!

Firstly though, I want to express the importance of preventing health issues, rather than waiting for health issues to arise. While proper nutrition and exercise support the physical body, other lifestyle factors play an enormous role in our immune system health and disease defense.

There is within the various elements of our immune system, a hierarchical system.  And this is where I believe people are often misguided and their focus on wellbeing too often misses the mark, so to speak. Most people focus simply on nutrition and feeding the body the physical building blocks it requires to support health. However, there are so much more to true wellbeing. 

At the top of the hierarchy, ‘energy wellness’ overrides everything. 

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration.”     – Nicolas Tesla

Modern medicine was developed based upon Newtonian Physics.  However, there is a science that overrides Newtonian Physics and that is Quantum Physics.  One might go so far as to say, that Quantum Physics in some sense, completely disproves the outdates the Newtonian perspective, in which the world is made up of matter which contains atoms and subatomic particles.  The human body is made up of cells, which are made up of molecules.  Molecules are made up of atoms which are made up of protons, neutrons and electrons.

In the quantum world, when we take a closer look at what makes subatomic particles, they realized that subatomic particles aren’t made up of energy, they are energy, and we see there is nothing but vibrational frequencies of potentials.  The entire universe as we know it, is all vibrational frequency.  Epigenetics went on to prove that what overrides physical genetic expression?  Our human consciousness. 

So, what does this mean in a practical sense for you?  By becoming aware of your own energy systems, you can raise your vibrational frequency to support health. 
Disease occurs in the energy of the body before it manifests in the physical form.  The thoughts you think are instantaneously shifting the energy in and around your body.

In many ways this is not new science.  Harold Saxton Burr what a professor at Yale university, who dedicated his life’s work to mapping out and measuring the electromagnetic energy within and around the human body, as well demonstrating that all living things including plants, and animals all have vibrational frequencies that are measurable. 

Born in 1889, he graduated Yale with his PhD in 1915 and became a professor of anatomy. His research contributed to the electrical detection of cancer cells, experimental embryology, neuroanatomy and regeneration and development of the nervous system. 
A year before his death, Burr published his book, Blueprint for Immortality (1), which showed that all living things have electrodynamic fields. Which he called the blueprint for all life. 

The ancient modality of Traditional Chinese Medicine which backdates modern medicine some 2,000 years, was also developed using meridian systems, or energy flow lines, which was later mapped out and proven by a research team at Harvard (2).

In 1994, Dr David Hawkins (3) published his book Power Versus Force which was is one of the most relevant books of our time in terms of understanding vibrational frequency.  Hawkins graduated with his PhD in 1940 from Stanford University and dedicated his life’s work to studying how emotions and thoughts affect our frequency and proved that lower vibrational emotions, also lower our immune system which leaves us vulnerable to disease.

So, when I speak about vibrational energy, it’s not ‘mumbo jumbo’, it’s proven science.  Why did modern medicine ignore this area of science?  Well, as they say, follow the dollars and you’ll find the truth. 

How then did I choose to manage having the big Om in my home?  Well for one, I did NOT isolate Eric.  He slept next to me, coughed all over me and my pillow and I wasn’t afraid of contracting in. I even cuddled him through his first night while he sweated it out. One might say I tried my hardest to get it! 

I’m not afraid of my immune system and its beautiful intelligence, I have faith in its innate power to get me through anything.  What was more important, was Eric’s healing.  He needed my touch and my love to build his immune system and to heal.  He needed me to nurse him and to provide nourishing meals and administer the right nutrients his physical body required to heal. 

The most damaging things to one’s immunity is isolation. We are by nature, creatures of love and connection.  We need physical touch and emotional contact.  In Power Versus Force, Hawkins was able to demonstrate the power of love.  Its vibrational frequency oscillates at 500 hz, while unconditional love sits at over 540 hz.  While fear oscillates at just 100.  Any emotion under 200 (courage) creates destructive patterns of energies which disrupt health. 

While I’d like to claim that I sit in the frequency of unconditional love and are therefore immune to all disease, that’s potentially my ego touting that, and God would in turn sucker punch me with some truth serum!  The truth is, I do focus on ever increasing my self-awareness to remain in the highest frequency I can.  Although I have my days when old trauma’s bite me in my ‘human-egoic butt’ at times, I know the importance of the work that we awakened souls came to this planet during these times.  We (you included) came to overcome limitations and to bring healing to this planet. 

Love overrides fear.  These really are the two only emotions.  So, as we are each faced with daily challenges of what’s going on out there in the world, we must ask ourselves, ‘am I operating in the frequency of love, or am I coming from a place of fear?’

So within, is without.  Our inner world affects not only our own energy system, but that of the collective energy system around us.  In this sense we are all one energy that is interconnected.  We must never forget the power each of us have in shifting the frequency on this planet, particularly at this time when power structures are rising and falling. 
We must hold faith in our hearts, we must not live in fear, and we must transcend our own limitations when in our moments of lack and return to love.  And at the very least we must have the courage to do so. 

Deborah xxxx

In Success Stories

Rita Athimos | Released 21kg

I started my journey on the 1st February 2020 and after 9 months of strictly sticking to the eating plan have lost 21kgs, and as of January  2021 have been in Maintenance for 4 months

I feel so much healthier, fitter  and have higher energy levels now than I’ve had in years!  My arthritis in my hands has totally disappeared, my sinus and allergy problems have improved greatly, but the most exciting thing for me that after being on diabetic medication for 14 years, Metformin 500mg, my last 3 blood results have come back so good I don’t need to take the medication anymore!

My life has completely changed thanks to Deborah Murtagh  and her amazing support team.

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Lina | Lost 12.5 LBS

Hi all I am so grateful and feeling like a new woman. Started 1/2/2020 at 86.5 now down to 74. That’s me on the left in January this year and on the right on Monday which was my 55th birthday. Thanks Deb love this program and are eternally grateful.

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Viji | Lost 57 LBS | UK

I have been on a journey to get to my ideal weight for a year now just after giving birth to my son and being the heaviest in life, 73kg in Aug 2019. Before I found Deborah Murtagh’s 30 day drop a dress size plan, I lost weight but the hard way, via calorie restriction and vigorous exercise, and it took over 10 months to lose 10 kgs! Most importantly, I didn’t have a healthy relationship with food; some days I would binge and some days I would restrict, so it was inconsistent to say the least!

I was desperate to find a better way to eat and just when I needed it, Deborah’s programme randomly showed up on Facebook page! The programme was definitely a game changer for me. Yes, I did lose some weight, but more importantly I gained a healthier way to eat! Apart from the first few days to start with, I didn’t feel hungry at all, so felt no need to binge eat. As a vegetarian, I did think I would struggle to be on a low carb-high fat diet, but the Facebook support group helped in terms of recipe ideas which was life saver!

Additionally, I realised the main factor in my weight loss and keeping the weight off is my mindset. Deborah’s mindset tools really helped with re-set my relationship with food and reinforce why I wanted to get to my ideal weight having felt overweight most of adult life!

By the end of the 30 days, not only I lost 3.4kg with ease, but I genuinely felt such a difference in my energy levels! My afternoon slumps were gone and that was even without the daily coffee hit! I really want to carry this lifestyle on so I have joined the main TKS programme, not just to reach my ideal weight and BMI ( 3kg more to go!) but to maintain the high energy levels and the positive relationship I have with food.

I am now around 59kg and I haven’t been under 60kg in over a decade! Thank you Deborah!


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